The irony is not missed, that although I have spent the majority of my life with a horse in the back country- that I haven't been hurt as badly by either the domestic horse, the wild horse, the wildlife or the terrain it's self as I have a person.

I've had a few scraped knees, a couple rolled ankles, a few cactus needles in the hand (or knee) and I've even had a colt flip over on me in 2012 when he lost his footing and went for a tumble.

But yet, the worse pain always seems to come from a human, more likely than not in the safety of my own home. Not because I have a poor home life, an abusive husband or a dangerous house- but because of the poor attitudes, attacks and insecurities of other humans through social media.

Social media is a beautiful thing. It keeps us up to date on the amazing things going on in this world, as well as the tragic events and events that need support. It keeps us in touch with our friends, family and loved ones- but it sure has left a sour taste in the mouth... Why is that?

The beauty of free will is that I am allowed to chose my own path, my own opinion and my own actions. I use my experiences to do so, just as everyone else does. Just because I chose this spiritual path, doesn't mean that you have to.

So why do these "trolls" for lack of better word- get to push their opinions, their drama and their beliefs in our faces? You don't get to tell me what my opinion is. You don't get to tell me what my morals are, what my beliefs are and what emotions I am feeling.

So why do you?

Why does someone I have never met, feel the need to tell me how I should feel? What I should think, believe and voice? And more importantly, why would any strong, sane person listen to that voice?

Stand up for yourself, determine what you feel, what you believe and what you want in your life. Then do it. Focus on your path ahead, instead of telling others they are stupid, dumb, or "on their high horse" Focus on your race, not mine, not your neighbors, your siblings or your parents. Focus on yours.

But more importantly, when we experience this in our lives- how do we move forward from this in a positive and healthy way?

The first step is by removing these people from our lives. Social media can suck- but it has this awesome feature called "Block". Use. It. Distance yourself from the negativity, unfollow the sources of this negativity and toxic energy.  Even if you are just using features such as "turning off notifications" "mute" or leaving a group that is no longer serving your highest intentions..

Once you have done this- now dive deeper into why you felt so attacked or triggered by this experience. Is there a insecurity that you felt was drug into the light with this situation, or do you feel as though you were standing up for someone who had no voice- and got caught in the cross fire?

Deeply, and seriously ask yourself "Why is this affecting me in such a way?" When you receive your answer, take it to heart and implement it in your life.

Lastly- focus on how you can bring more love and light into your spiritual self. Do you need to meditate and release toxic cords and energies from you? Do you need to step down from a position or volunteer role- and find a different outlet for your energy? Or do you just need to work on some of your past shadows and subconscious demons?

Focus on yourself and being the light in the world, and you will notice more and more light surrounding you, and leading others on the same path.

Victoria Dellapaolera
Victoria Dellapaolera

Victoria is a Christian minister practicing spiritual healing and development in Williston, North Dakota. Victoria has worked with horses her entire life, and has learned many of her healing techniques from the horses.

She graduated from West Virginia University in 2020 Magna Cum Laude with a bachelors degree in Human Services and Sports and Exercise Psychology; gaining her associates degree in Farm and Ranch Management and Equitation from Dawson Community College in Glendive, Montana in 2012.

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