How many times to we hear “you need to rest” and we assume it’s a physical need. We assume this is tied to our sore muscles, achy joints and irritability. But we rest, and we are still tired, we want to sleep all the time and it mimics the symptoms of depression, without the depression.

So we rest some more, and yet all we do is chill in front of the TV, never really recharging our inner selves.  I truly believe there are three versions of ourselves we have to take care of. Physical, emotional and spiritual. We know how to take physical rest, we know how to distance ourselves emotionally to give ourselves a break, but how do we rest spiritually?

How do we rest our souls? These seems like a weird question, because it is something that is hard to see if you aren’t open to it. We all believe that we have a soul- that isn’t up for question. But we seem to believe that this being inside of us, doesn’t need care, nourishment or fulfillment. We just let it shrivel up inside of us- until we are so tired, so depressed, so burnt out- that we can’t seem to move forward. And yet, we still wonder why we feel this way.

When is the last time you did something that made your soul happy? When is the last time you picked up your camera for you, not for a client? When is the last time you sat and listened to music that made your soul happy- and not while you were driving to work, doctors appointments or grocery runs. When was the last time, you placed your soul above anything else? Your spiritual self…

Many will say “Well I go to Church every Sunday”. That is beautiful! Keep doing that! That is a great thing for you to do.

But does it recharge your soul? Does it uplift you, awaken you and make you feel recharged? If no, then this isn’t what you need to be doing to fulfill your soul’s desires.

How do I know what makes my soul happy?

If you are struggling with this, a soul retrieval meditation would be beneficial for you. When we go through life, sometimes we have to let go of parts of ourselves to survive. These shards of ourselves break away from us, and kind of float around within us- within our memories or just in our minds. These traits or feelings might come to our mind now and again, but it’s not something that we think about regularly. 9 times out of 10, this is the response I get: “This isn’t an issue, this doesn’t bother me. I’m legitimately over this, and I don’t understand what healing you think I need to do”

But after the retrieval, and after about three weeks of pondering, it just clicks and the client comes back to me- and goes “I can’t imagine why I thought I was okay with that! I completely forgot how much I loved to paint, I’m getting back into it and it’s making me so happy, thank you!”

Sometimes we forget what truly makes us happy, because sometimes life gets so difficult that we have to give up those things to survive. We have to work two jobs, so we stop painting. We have bills to pay, so we sell the horse to save money on feed and board so we can live a little more comfortably.

These difficult times will always come, but it’s important to find something to fill that void when we let something go that makes us truly happy.

If you can’t keep your horse anymore, it might be wise to find something else that fulfills your soul in a different way, so when you can have a horse again- you will now have two things that fulfill you, instead of just one.

How do I rest my spiritual self?

There are millions of things you can do to work on resting your spiritual self:

  • Meditation
  • Reading a good book- just because you want to
  • Hiking
  • Walking
  • Prayer
  • Going to Church
  • Spending time with a hobby
  • Finding any hobby at all
  • Joining a Yoga or fitness class
  • Volunteering time towards something you love
    • (I volunteer with local 4H groups with photography and horseback riding)
  • Photographing stuff you love- not taking photography clients
  • Writing
  • Learning something new

This list is just a quick gathering of topics that would help me rest my spiritual self- spend some thought on this and decide what would benefit you- without being too stressful to begin. If it stresses you out, it’s not going to fulfill you.

Life is hard, it always will be- so we have to learn how to cope with this and recharge in a way that is healthy and truly makes us happy.

My journey.

I’m sure you have noticed how sporadically I post on social media- because social media is my kryptonite. I struggle with posting consistently, and to be honest the likes, comments, followers and other statistics make me feel inadequate. So, I chose not to do it.

But the other day, after a 20 day hiatus from my social media accounts, I shared a post and someone saw it for what I saw it as, and it reminded me that I am meant to help people heal from the inside out. So that is what I am going to do, even if I only get one like on each post- I will continue to share the message and help people truly move forward from their past…

I’d rather share that, then an ton of selfies any day!

Understanding this and realizing that I have to set up boundaries with my social media presence was huge for my emotional well being and my spiritual well-being. I was comparing myself to others. To people who were decades on their journey, people who spent thousands of dollars on their social media accounts every month- people who weren’t me. And it was killing me slowly.


But taking something that was so draining and turning it into something that was positive has changed my outlook on this aspect of my business. I was able to take something and remove the “driven by likes” and add the “driven by my soul”- which has changed everything for me.

How do you make this discovery yourself?

1. Find your why. Why do I do this? Is it to pay my bills, is it to take care of my kids or my pets? Why am I doing this.

2. Meditate on your why- and ask yourself how you can turn this part of your life that you dislike, into something that drives you on a deeper level.

3. Make the necessary shifts in your mind to make this chore turn into something that helps fill you up, instead of drain your cup. A simple shift in your perspective on how you view this can change everything. Perspective is reality.

I hope this is able to help you learn what is going to help you fulfill your spiritual self, turn what drains you into what fills you up, and make your overall health better for you, on all three levels.

Victoria Dellapaolera
Victoria Dellapaolera

Victoria is a Christian minister practicing spiritual healing and development in Williston, North Dakota. Victoria has worked with horses her entire life, and has learned many of her healing techniques from the horses.

She graduated from West Virginia University in 2020 Magna Cum Laude with a bachelors degree in Human Services and Sports and Exercise Psychology; gaining her associates degree in Farm and Ranch Management and Equitation from Dawson Community College in Glendive, Montana in 2012.

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