Give more than you take.

This phrase has been stuck in my head for the last three weeks.

We are going through a massive shift. Everything around us is changing. We are discovering deeper depths of our souls, almost like we are coming off of auto pilot and beginning to feel, think and be for ourselves.

We all experience it- we set a boundary and magically we become the bad person because we don't chose to participate. But regardless of what happens when a friend does this to you, where they take, take, take without giving back to you- it hurts.

This pain is a trauma, and it hits our spiritual bodies and affects how we interact in the world because we are hurting. We see future situations through our pains. For me this involved my heart chakra, as someone I valued as a friend continued to lie to me, steal from me and manipulate me and everyone around me. This caused a wound and if I had allowed it this would cause a shadow within me.

But during the next few days, I am taking the time to actually sit down and work through this. Why? Because I'm taking my power back. Because it's my responsibility to do so. We can't control what others do to us. We can't control it!

What we can control is ourselves. We can control the cycles we are on and our own actions. It's not karma, it's not a "karmic cycle" you get to hide behind when you make the same mistakes over and over again.

Sometimes the person we need to give to is ourselves. We need to give ourselves grace to move through painful times. We need to give ourselves space so we can remove painful and toxic connections to those who surround us. We have to give ourselves forgiveness, love and kindness so we can truly heal.

Remembering WHO we are. Where we have come from. Taking back our power and acknowledging that nobody can take credit for the work YOU did, even if they try.

People take more in this world than they give, it's a tried and true fact. But don't allow someone who takes from you define you- they will always paint you as the villian in their story, they have to; otherwise how do they justify what they did to you?

I have one request for you.

Take back your power you gave to someone else.

Take back what is rightfully yours and rise above.

Give back to yourself for a change, and learn how to establish boundaries with people around you. If they hurt you. If they continuously take your time, take your resources and take advantage of you; stop allowing this.

We have to take responsibility for our roles in these situations so we can grow and move forward. It's time to heal. It's time to grow.

Victoria Dellapaolera
Victoria Dellapaolera

Victoria is a Christian minister practicing spiritual healing and development in Williston, North Dakota. Victoria has worked with horses her entire life, and has learned many of her healing techniques from the horses.

She graduated from West Virginia University in 2020 Magna Cum Laude with a bachelors degree in Human Services and Sports and Exercise Psychology; gaining her associates degree in Farm and Ranch Management and Equitation from Dawson Community College in Glendive, Montana in 2012.

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