I’ve packed this old bridle across the country.

This bridle was my childhood ponies bridle. It still hangs in my office today, reminding me of the those who taught me how to ride, the importance of respect for the horse and for my elders.

When we think back upon our lives, often times we are ashamed of the mistakes we have made, and worry about what our ancestors think and feel about us now. No matter what we have done, our ancestors want to help us with our healing and our journey.

I keep this bridle around to remind me of that pony, those who taught me how to ride and the lessons I learned along the way. That old pony has long since passed, and boy did he teach me some lessons in our day. But that bridle stands as an old reminder to not forget those lessons, and to carry them with me through my entire life. To pass these lessons on to those who want to listen, and to help those around me as I have received help myself.

This is the general theme here, we are all connected. I received the guidance I did because I was meant to walk this path. This isn’t something “new” or a phase, this is my life.

One of the strongest lessons I learned came from the man who gifted my mom this bridle for our little pony. He was so steady, so calm even when you know what was hitting the fan, equipment was breaking or a momma cow was struggling calving. He was always so balanced and at peace, his anger always showing exactly when it was proper and time to be angry.

That is my biggest struggle and something I am constantly working on, is my anger. All of our fiery emotions can backfire on us, causing a path of destruction along the way. It’s not wise to play with fire when we are out of balance or angry. These times aren’t the times to act or react. Instead this is the times for us to weather the storm, find balance and to befriend our inner fire, so it doesn’t scorch you.

Victoria Dellapaolera
Victoria Dellapaolera

Victoria is a Christian minister practicing spiritual healing and development in Williston, North Dakota. Victoria has worked with horses her entire life, and has learned many of her healing techniques from the horses.

She graduated from West Virginia University in 2020 Magna Cum Laude with a bachelors degree in Human Services and Sports and Exercise Psychology; gaining her associates degree in Farm and Ranch Management and Equitation from Dawson Community College in Glendive, Montana in 2012.

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