Horsemanship, Spirituality and Life

I'm sure many of you have noticed my obsession with horses. Hey- what can I say, I am who I am! But I do think it goes deeper then just being fond of horses. It comes from having that desire to learn from them, grow with them and become the best person, and horseman, I can be.

I am excited to see where this passion for horses takes me, again. As many of you know, I was a successful horse trainer until I broke my back in 2013. After that moment, something shifted inside me. And I think this shift was because it wasn't the right path for me, at that time.

I needed to grow more. I needed to see more from the world and what I had to offer, specifically what my soul was capable of doing.

Now fast forward to 2019. I am moving 25 hours from my home with the most amazing man I could ever ask for. I am getting my dream of working not only with horses, but with people who need to heal themselves.

And it is just unbelievably powerful for me.


As I sit here, procrastinating about packing up my house, riding my colts and basically doing much of anything productive, I can't help but sit back and feel a sense of gratitude for the life I have been living.

Being patient that what I need is what I have been given, and understanding that obstacles I have in front of me are there for a reason, and it is my responsibility to work through these times to live my best life.

How does this tie in with horses? Because training a horse is all about patience. It is about appreciating what we are given, not what we want and working through any issues or past traumas to help each soul "Live their best life".

It isn't about the horse mirroring our souls, it isn't about having a horse tell us what is wrong. If you aren't listening it doesn't matter how loudly the horse is screaming at you to change, you won't hear it.  This is about being grateful for everything we have in our lives, and finding balance and peace within ourselves so we can pass that on to those around us, and LIVE OUR BEST LIFE.

When you are at peace and balanced spiritually, you are going to be a better horseman. Period.

I had a cinch break on a colt of mine once. The first time I saddled him, the latigo was too soft and just ripped right in two. It didn't break, it ripped guys!

It took hours to get that colt to trust me again, and took days for me to get a saddle on him again. He was shy about the saddle for months after the incident.


So being in balance with myself didn't keep this freak accident from happening, but it did give my colt something to help with his nerves. It gave him something to trust in, even when he didn't want to anymore. He is one of the best colts I've started, once we worked through that hiccup- which tends to ruin a horse.

I think people are quick to give up when it gets tough. They hit an obstacle with their horse, and they are too scared, too narrow minded or too proud to try a different method, a different perspective or a different mindset. The obstacle (Horse afraid of saddle) riles up the horseman, and they put up a mental block that "He's never going to get over this, he has to be traumatized" Well YA of course he is. But you treating him like it's okay to be traumatized isn't going to help the matter. How about you show him it's okay.

You rebuild that trust and start again- never giving up. Because giving up is where failure begins.

Victoria Dellapaolera
Victoria Dellapaolera

Victoria is a Christian minister practicing spiritual healing and development in Williston, North Dakota. Victoria has worked with horses her entire life, and has learned many of her healing techniques from the horses.

She graduated from West Virginia University in 2020 Magna Cum Laude with a bachelors degree in Human Services and Sports and Exercise Psychology; gaining her associates degree in Farm and Ranch Management and Equitation from Dawson Community College in Glendive, Montana in 2012.

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